Ever felt like your can’t be bothered? Last Monday I felt like my get up and go had got up and done a runner! We’ve all been there, right? Whatever it is your trying to motivate yourself to do, no matter how big or small the task sometimes its hard to self motivate. Even with all the tricks I have up my sleeve as a Life Coach there are simply times when I struggle. Here are my top 3 tips for motivation:
1: Ask for help: choosing the right person is hugely relevant to the outcome you want. I knew the person I picked wasn’t going to let me moan about it but I knew if I told them 3 things I wanted to achieve that day she would firmly but kindly hold me accountable. I also knew how I would feel at the end of the day when I could proudly tell her that I’d achieved my goals. (Thanks Cristina)
2: Pay close attention to the thoughts that you are having in relation to the task(s) you’re struggling with. All our feelings start as thoughts. In order to control our feelings, we need to identify the thoughts that are igniting the feeling. If you’re feeling unmotivated about a task, it’s most certainly because of your thoughts and therefore your attitude and beliefs. The great news is, all of these are 100% controlled by you and therefore you can choose to change them e.g. I really don’t want to go and join that new class tonight because I might be rubbish and I’ll feel like an idiot. You can change this to ‘I’m going to be so please with myself if I try, I’ll give it 100% and meet some nice new people’. This step is easier said than done and takes practice. Some helpful questions to ask yourself are;
- What do I think is going to happen? (I’ll be rubbish, people won’t like me)
- What happened the last time I did this? (I felt embarrassed)
- What’s the worst that can happen? (I make a total fool of myself)
- What is my excuse and it is true/real? (I’ve got no time, it’s too much hassle to get there)
The next step is to re-write those answers, change your thoughts and beliefs. Remove the blockage.
3: Reconnect to your reasons for doing it: what was your motivation for wanting to do it in the first place? It’s ok if you’ve changed your mind, hey? I’m a huge fan of Simon Sinek who talks all the time about ‘finding our why’. In this scenario, ask yourself ‘Why am I do this?’. If you’re lacking motivation it might simply be that your WHY isn’t strong enough to warrant the level of motivation required. In which case you can choose to focus your energy elsewhere. It’s your choice to ‘carry on’ or ‘move on’.
If you’re struggling with motivation, having a Life Coach or mentor is proven to change your life and increase your happiness. I can prove that in a FREE 20 minute session. Get in touch if you want to feel better.