Asking for help, Change, Coaching, Confidence, Empowering, Making a decision

The Perfect Life is as realistic as Unicorn Poop!

I love Simon Sinek!  I’ve been following him for years and his mantra about ‘asking for more help is liberating’  really resonates at this time of year; people commonly put off making changes in their lives whilst they prioritise enjoying the festive season but when the new year comes we take on all sorts of change and challenges. 
 
If you do decide to make a change in your life consider ‘ASKING FOR MORE HELP‘- its quite liberating when you do ask for help and realise you’re surrounded by people who want to help but just never thought you needed it. When I decided to put myself out there as a Life Coach I worried about portraying a perfect life with all the answers when in reality ‘the perfect life’ is as realistic as unicorn poop’. No-one has all the answers but someone has the answer.
 
Rather than being a perceived sign of weakness ‘asking for help’ is a win win situation – the person who helps you feels the reward of a good deed and you get some support.
Pace yourself, be kind to yourself and ask for more help
Change, Coaching, Confidence, Conflicting Advice, Decisions, Empowering, Gut Instinct, Making a decision, Parenting

“Ante-natal classes aren’t stigmatised, so why should parenting classes?”

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Becoming a parent was (and still is) hands down, the hardest thing I’ve ever done. From the expectation to fall immediately in love with my first born to the endless streams of often conflicting advice, I found the whole experience overwhelming and terrifying. I went from being a confident business woman to a scarred, incompetant and vulnerable mum. Eventually I found my way; with the support of an amazing husband and friends/family. Like all of my friends I’d attended Ante-Natal classes because that’s just what everyone did but looking back, how valuable were those classes? Not at all is the short answer! Why? Because each labour and each baby are just so different – how could 3 hours of classes prepare us for every eventuality. I’d almost go as far to say they were unhelpful, especially when my labour and early months as a mum didn’t fit any of the scenarios we’d covered in class.

Fast forward 8 years and I’m pleased and proud to acknowledge that life as a mum has become loads easier and considerably more enjoyable. There are still those days – you know ‘those days!!!’ but I now use my coaching skills to get me through each little challenge – asking the right questions, listening, understanding their motivations/needs/wants, putting good routines in place, rewards and most of all lots of fun and cuddles etc etc etc…the list is endless.

I’ve worked with a number of clients who’ve had different challenges as parents from eating habits to bedtime routines and one thing I’ve found common is a sense of shame that they can’t cope. All the parents I know have admitted that being a parent is challenging, just when you’ve got a grip of one thing, life goes on and a new challenge is just around the corner. Getting some help and support that suits not only you but the needs of your child, make sense right? You can make those challenges more easy to deal with and learn new skills that make every day life better for the whole family. Ante-natal classes aren’t stigmatised, so why should parenting classes?

If you’re interesting in understand more about how coaching can help you get in touch to book a free 20 minutes consultation.