Asking for help, Coaching, Expectations vs Reality, It's ok to not be ok, Life challenges, Unhelpful Feelings, Unhelpful Thoughts

Freedom from Unhelpful Expectations: ‘You SHOULD be happy because you …..’

..... <fill in the blank> I'm genuinely fascinated by how people think and in particular I always want to know more about 'what prevents someone from talking or getting help when they don't feel ok?'. (This feels like that start of a Carrie Bradshaw article!). On World Mental Health Day I posted this lovely little… Continue reading Freedom from Unhelpful Expectations: ‘You SHOULD be happy because you …..’

Asking for help, Change, Choices, Decisions, Life challenges, Making a decision

Do you ever feel like you’ve got no choice or that things are out of your control?- Read this…..

I used the word 'choice' so many times in each of my sessions that I wish I was on some kind of usage commission! A lot of modern day unhelpful feelings manifest from a sense that we have no choice, we feel trapped, out of control, helpless... which leads to anxiety, sadness, fear etc. One… Continue reading Do you ever feel like you’ve got no choice or that things are out of your control?- Read this…..

Anxiety, Asking for help, Depression, Fear of failing, It's ok to not be ok, Life challenges, Parenting, Postnatal Depression

I lied to everyone- I wish I hadn’t!

A familiar story with a twist most people won't see coming: "When I became pregnant for the first time it wasn't a joyous occasion, it wasn't planned and there was no excitement on my part - just worry and nervousness. I didn't bloom during pregnancy, quite the opposite, I nearly had a full house of 'Pregnancy Symptoms Bingo'- I only needed… Continue reading I lied to everyone- I wish I hadn’t!

Anxiety, Asking for help, Coaching, Confidence, Empowering, Life challenges

Turn your challenges into opportunities!

  "Don't Tell Someone to Get Over It, Help Them Through It" A lovely little image and quote... I'd finish it off with the line 'and come out the other side a better person'. This is the mark of a good coach! Someone who is there for you when you need them but pops an… Continue reading Turn your challenges into opportunities!

Anxiety, Change, Coaching, Confidence, Empowering, Fear of failing, Getting out of your comfort zone, Nervousness

Fear- a strange little gift to ourselves!

One of the biggest barriers a lot of my clients have is fear- fear comes in many forms but is essentially something we've created within ourselves. Ok, so there is genuine fear which is a human survival instinct but most of the day to day stuff is 'self made fear', a strange little gift to… Continue reading Fear- a strange little gift to ourselves!

Coaching, Confidence, Conflicting Advice, Decisions, Gut Instinct, Making a decision, Wrong Decision

‘Carry On!’ OR ‘Move On!’???

  The internet is full of quotes, motivational and thought provoking, but more recently I’ve started to notice a contradiction in their messages. This is one of my favourites. It’s hard to know sometimes when you should ‘carry on’ or ‘move on’. There's an element of fear in both these messages. If I give up, I'm… Continue reading ‘Carry On!’ OR ‘Move On!’???

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Feeling Overwhelmed Before An Interview

I came to Jill for support when going for promotion in the Public Service, I had a structured interview from a panel of three senior  staff.......I was completely overwhelmed by all the information and evidence I had gathered and surrounded by piles of paperwork that I would never remember. I had some telephone consultations with… Continue reading Feeling Overwhelmed Before An Interview